The Good and the Bad of Having Long Distance Friendships

Long Distance Friendships, Good or Bad?

I have a couple of friends who live abroad. I have a best friend who lives in Germany, and another who lives in France. Even though the countries are quite close, it's not the same as going next door, or even getting a short journey bus to visit your best friends. However, there are still many positives to having long distance friendships, as well as negatives. 

Visiting different countries. 

We started visiting each other when we were 13/14. We went to see our friend in France, and it was a great holiday. It was the first time we've seen each other in around a year.  

Now that we're older, we don't have to meet up in each others countries, we can go anywhere we want together (of course that also depends on money). However, when we do go to each others houses, it's great because free accommodation;) 

Through having these friendships, we are able to travel the world together. Even if we don't always see each other all at the same time, it's still great being able to see at least one of your best friends. 

I can't wait for the other countries that we will visit together. 

Saying Goodbye. 

This is an obvious one, but I hate having to say goodbye to my best friends. Over time, it does get easier, but it's still difficult after spending over a week with your best friends, and then suddenly not seeing them for a long time after. It's always weird when it's the last night, or you're at the airport, and it almost feels surreal that you're not going to see them soon. And then it hits you. 

Being the same Friendship. 

Even though it's a while before we see each other, and we all have done a lot of growing and changing in that time, whenever we see each other, it always turns to the same old friendship. It might be weird at first, but as soon as we realise that we're still the same way towards each other, it's amazing. We can cry from laughter all night, and we always seem to go on little adventures when together. 

Not being able to be there for your best friend. 

There have been moments when something would happen in my best friends life, and I wouldn't find out until I saw her. It's always difficult not being able to be there, but also not being able to have your best friend with you during tough times. As much as we keep in contact, sometimes better than others, it's not the same as asking your best friend to come over. It's not the same messaging or calling a friend when you need someone, than having them be there pestering you about what's wrong until you cave and tell them. I can't just go over to my best friends house and bring ice cream, or hug her if she needs it. Which sucks. 

Having a few weeks together. 

Most of my fun memories, come from those times where Ive seen my best friends. Sometimes I think it's better that we're stuck together for a few weeks rather than see each other occasionally during the week, because you can't not have any great memories during that time! When we see each other, we always want to go out and do something, we barely want to be at home unless there's a house party. Sometimes I think that's better than seeing each other during the week, and just staying in on our phones watching movies. 

I adore my best friends, and I am so proud of who they are and who they are becoming. I can't wait to see them again soon 💖💖💖